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It’s somewhat ironic that I should stumble upon this just today.

October 30, 1982
Mount Ayr, Iowa
Nana
Gladys Tennant Prentis

I am compelled to write. We are in the last stages of a political campaign. Ronald Reagan is President. Governor and Congressional races are the important issues. I do not feel very strongly in favor of any particular candidate — but as a life-long Republican, I will vote mostly that way.

I am disturbed at the smear campaigns so many are conducting. We are in the midst of a depression or recession — unemployment is high, many are on welfare. Prices to the farmer are low — prices of things they must buy are high — but I remember. I will soon be 84 years old, and I can’t remember where I laid my scissors down — but I remember when things were much worse than they are now. My radio and TV blare out the political slogans — “Iowa is losing her people, they are going to the Sun Belt, the young people are leaving Iowa, and they will never come back.”

Sound familiar? Anyway, she continues…

They do come back, or I wouldn’t be here. This is my story.

My parents were farmers. They had two small children. One day they noticed the little girl was limping. She continued to limp more and more. When she was three years old, my parents took her to Chicago to a famous children’s hospital. There the doctors diagnosed her problem as tuberculosis of the bone. This of course, is your Aunt Edna. This was about 90 years ago, and the doctors thought an operation would help. My father always thought that perhaps he had had a tuberculous cow and that Edna had contracted the disease from the fresh milk. Iowa has since taken care of that problem. Cows are tested for TB and milk is all pasteurized. We do make progress.

The doctors operated — removed the diseased bone and literally carved out a new hip socket. She was in the Chicago hospital three months. Mother stayed with her. Carl was a baby and he was with Grandma Tennant in Mount Ayr. Dad felt he had to get back to the farm and try to make some money to pay the tremendous bills. When Edna and Mother came home, Carl didn’t remember her, and it took a while before he would leave Grandma (Christinia*). Soon another baby was on the way and Uncle Maurice was born. The farm was two miles from the country school where my mother had gone to school and later taught. (Later I attended that school for one year.) My parents realized Edna would never be able to walk those two miles, good days and bad snow, rain and sunshine, so my father looked around for other employment. He finally decided to go to school and study to be an Osteopathic Physician. So he rented out the farm (80 acres my mother had inherited from her parents) and moved his little family to Kirksville, Missouri. This was in 1898 and my mother was again pregnant, and I was on my way to join the family.

Kirksville had two schools of Osteopathy — Still’s and Ward’s. He chose Ward’s because it was cheaper tuition and he could rent a house close to the campus. They haad a grade school for students’ children, so Edna and Carl entered there. Edna had never gone to school though she was almost eight years old. Those were hard times, too, and there was no welfare or help financially as there is now.

The little songs  I sing to the babies are songs Edna and Carl learned at the school in Kirksville — A Little Boy Went Walking; I Saw a Rabbit; Here’s a Ball for Baby; Good Morning, Merry Sunshine, etc. My mother sang them to me… I sang them to my children… my grandchildren and my great grand children. Who knows… I may yet sing (or try to sing) them to my great great grandchildren!

To wind this up — (old people never know when they have remembered more than they should), my father graduated from college, was granted a license to practice Osteopathy and moved his family to Trenton, Missouri, where he began to practice. We’ve come a long way in many respects since those days int he early 1900s. My mother had a very severe case of Typhoid Fever soon after they were established in Trenton. Doctors told my father, in her frail condition, that my mother could not survive a severe mid-west winter. So he closed his office, bundled up his little family — a lame daughter on crutches, two little boys, and a little girl, 3 months — me. My mother was so weak she could not even hold me on her lap, but Dad took the train headed for California — no job — no money, but determined to save his beloved wife’s life.

The only job he could find was a grocery store clerk for $10 per week. He only intended to stay a few of the winter months, but we stayed six or seven years. I attended Kindergarten, 1st, 2nd, 3rd and 4th grades in Pasadena. By that time Dad had lost his license to practice Osteopathy, the boys were at an age when they needed something to do, so the folks decided to return to the farm in Adams County, Iowa.

Again we boarded the train. To get back to the politics, — we did come back to Iowa. After a city lot, 80 acres seemed like “all outdoors” to us. Dad bought used machinery, a team of horses, a spring wagon, a cow and some pigs, and we were in business.

Now about unemployment. In those days, the man of the household was the only employed person. If all the women who used to stay in the home would go back there, there would probably be jobs for all the men.

The last part of the letter isn’t with the rest of it. Maybe I’ll find it one day.

Nana

Nana

Along with the previous letter is one from my Dad’s cousin Marion to his sister Anne:

Mount Ayr, Iowa
April 14, 1988

Anne:

As for Mother’s surgeries: Hip operation took place in Chicago when she was 3 years old. She does not remember the name of the hospital other than it was a Catholic hospital. The nuns gave her a doll when she left — no, we don’t have it. Operation: they took off the ‘head’ (ball) of the femur and scraped the socket. For several years it would slip out of place, so she lay in the bed with a weight attached to her leg; the weight then suspended over the end of the bed to PULL Mom’s hip back in place. Then her father, G. A. Tennant, observed an Osteopath at work and was impressed… he then moved the family to Kirksvillle, Missouri (school of Osteopathy located there) and proceeded to learn how to manipulated Mom’s hip in order to avoid the weight ordeal attached to leg. So he promptly went to school and learned how to and was successful! Made it easier for both he and Mom. He graduated from the school and planned to set up an office in Trenton, Missouri. Whereupon, Grandma Tennant (Fannie L.) came down with a terrible case of typhoid fever… after nursing Grandma through it. Upon doctor’s advice he took his family of 4 children and sick wife to California!!

Knee surgery: took place in Rochester, Minn. They cut the knee joint removing 1-1/2 inches of dead bone (diseased) — that’s all the way around the knee, nearly severing the leg (as one can see by the scar). Then they brought the two “live bones” together fastening them with a silver nail! Then they put the leg in a cast that went from the ankle to groin, which she wore from October to March… Mom was 25 years old when this operation was performed. That’s it from Mom’s mouth!

Marion

* Note: Nana always spelled her Grandma’s name Christiania. I have corrected it to Christinia per other records I have. Her nickname was “Teen.”

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September 8-19, 2008

It was supposed to be a leisurely trip moving our youngest daughter and a carload of her belongings 800 miles away to her university dorm, stopping to visit her grandparents along the way,  and leaving Phoebe to stay with my parents as we continued on. We were advised to make it a memorable trip, but little did we know…

100-year flooding in Lubbock, a hurricane in Houston, oh, and might as well take down that tree in Garland while you’re at it.

— Twitter

Our car’s trunk was carefully loaded and packed to the brim. Ali took her place in her half of the back seat surrounded by even more of her belongings piled window high in the other half. Not willing to let Phoebe ride in my lap the entire way to my parents’ house, Steve rolled down the back window and I slid her in to perch on top of Space Bags (what a godsend!) filled with bedding and clothes. We weren’t sure she’d want to stay there, but once she settled in, she seemed to enjoy the view.

On the way to Iowa we received a call from Jenna lamenting that Lubbock was having a 100-year flood. By the evening of Thursday, Sept. 11, her Saturn Ion3 stalled out in high water that other cars were still managing to drive through. She called police who arrived quickly, but left to attend to others when she said she had called OnStar; however, the tow truck they arranged was unable to reach her that night due to closed streets. Thankfully, she and Jens were able to walk home and their apartment had no flood damage. Due to ridiculous lack of communication and miscommunication on OnStar’s part that resulted in several wasted trips on foot back to the stalled car, her car was finally towed to a Saturn dealer just before closing time on Saturday. On the following Monday, we were told her engine block was cracked and she’d need a new engine. We then had to deal with antics from State Farm for several more days.

Meanwhile, Steve was busy planing a sticking bathroom door and setting my dad up with a laptop computer we’d brought with us to eventually replace his outdated system. I was feeling bad and sucking cough drops, hoping I wouldn’t pass the cold I’d gotten from Ali to my parents, and Steve was coming down with it. Hurricane Ike was aiming at our kids in Houston and even our area near Dallas was under tropical storm warnings and extremely wet and windy because of it. Joel and Blake were busy deciding whether or not to evacuate. Our home was vacant and we suggested they use it. In our absence, we’d left our cats in the charge of a sweet neighbor girl who came in frequently to care for the cats, take in mail, and water plants. Before Joel got there, her dad called to let us know that a tree leaning over our main yard from our creek property had fallen, and he offered to take care of it for us. Fortunately, no one was near it at the time and there was only minor damage to the retaining wall and sprinkler system. It wasn’t close enough to the house to be a threat, but somehow, our mailbox was spared.

After Joel and his family evacuated, Hurricane Ike pummeled Galveston, Houston and much of the Texas coast. We were glad they were safe in our home and not in the midst of it, although they did have to deal with the inconvenience of getting the house ready to show just after they got settled in with their stuff, the stairway was adequately Zoe-proofed, Blake began studying, and Nana’s stash of toys had been found. Steve continued to deal with our insurance company about Jenna’s car as we drove to Minnesota, and that’s when we learned that her claim had been grouped with those of the hurricane, even though Lubbock’s flood preceded it by several days and was totally unrelated. Regardless,  they seemed to think Lubbock was a coastal city instead of about as far away in Texas as one could get, and no insurance adjuster would look at it until yesterday. Finally, we’ve learned the repair will consist of a rebuilt engine rather than a new one and the warranty we had wasn’t quite what we thought.  After some hassle, the warranty situation still turned out to be pretty good, however. Although her friend Sarah has been a big help to her with transportation, as of tomorrow, Jenna will have been without her own car for two weeks. Perhaps it will be ready by the end of the week.

With the damage and power outages in Houston, Blake’s classes were canceled for several days, giving them all an unwanted vacation. While staying in our home, they received a call that Chief and Sarge, the two dogs they had reluctantly given  up to new owners just a few weeks prior had been found. A friend of theirs was able to pick them up and keep them until Joel’s family arrived back in Houston. They enjoyed our air conditioning while they had it and have still been coping with the lack of it and intermittent electrical power since their return.

In Minnesota, we saw Dan, Sally, Brandy and Jake, as well as Steve’s mom. Matthew even arranged an overnight visit to see Ali on his way (out of the way, really) to take his car back to Dallas from Chicago. We had offered to drive it home for him, but our timing was just a few days off of when he needed. and so we ended up crossing paths. On the 15th, we repacked the car and somehow Steve even managed to find space for a box fan Matthew had brought for Ali (unbeknown to us until we got to Minnesota — he would have air conditioning this year and wouldn’t need it. It was a nice gesture, but we didn’t expect to be able to make room for it!). Loaded down again, we headed through Wisconsin on our way to Illinois, — but just outside of Eau Claire, our alternator warning light came on. As there was no Mercedes dealer in the area, we were referred to a locally owned repair shop in Chippewa Falls. The owner went out of his way for us and tried his best to get us on our way quickly. He offered to take us to a restaurant when he thought the alternator could be rebuilt within a couple of hours. When he found out that one of the necessary parts couldn’t be had until the following morning, he offered to take us to a motel. We had to be in Chicago by a specific move-in time the next day, so we started searching for rental cars big enough to handle our load. None would deliver a car to his shop so he lent us a car to drive over to their small airport and pick one up. We picked up a Toyota Rav4, drove it back to his repair shop, transferred the load, and were on our way again. We had planned to take Blake’s dad up on his offer to stay at his apartment with him for a couple of nights, but our delay meant we were very late arriving. We called ahead to let him know, offered to get a motel instead, and he graciously said it wasn’t a problem. He stayed up to let us in and give us a “parking pass” for our dashboard.

On the 16th we did some shopping and moved Ali in. We took advantage of the Rav4 to try to buy a 3.0 cu. ft. mini fridge, but all the stores near the campus seemed to be sold out. They were also sold out of hangers and several other miscellaneous, but necessary items we needed to buy. Parking on campus was difficult and we did a lot of walking. The campus and weather were beautiful, but my feet were blistered and eventually my hip complained too. While Ali had meetings, we unpacked her room. She brought less than most, but even in a single room, space was pretty tight. We filled nearly every nook and cranny then left Ali for the night, drove along the lake and into downtown Chicago before heading back to Blake’s dad’s late again. We let ourselves in, slept, said our thanks and goodbyes before he left for work in the morning, and then headed to some stores further out for the rest of Ali’s supplies.  We realized that we’d forgotten to put our “parking pass” back on the dash the night before and were grateful the car hadn’t been towed during the night. That’s all we needed after everything else.

There was no 3.0 cu.ft. mini fridge anywhere to be found, but we did find one at a Home Depot near David’s apartment with a capacity of 3.5 cu. ft. — and it was even on sale. Ali’s list clearly said the size restriction was 3.0, but we decided to remove it from the labeled box before taking it in and give it a shot. Would anyone inspect it that closely anyway?

We unloaded the fridge and last few items, hugged and said a teary farewell reminiscent of a similar goodbye to Jenna a few weeks ago, then drove back toward Chippewa Falls to retrieve our car.  Still transporting a refrigerator box we needed to rid ourselves of, we managed to deposit it in a recycling station at a rest stop along the way. We started looking for a motel around 10pm, but our first couple of stops proved fruitless. Wondering why all the motels in the middle of Wisconsin were full on a late September Wednesday night, we continued on to the next town. We found a nice room with a noisy refrigerator, a noisy air conditioner, free wifi that didn’t work, and an electronic beeping noise that woke us at 3:45am. BUT it had TV,  a comfy bed, a shower, and a free breakfast we took advantage of before heading out once more, stopping to pick up our car, return the rental, and then on to my parents’.

In all our driving, we must have counted a dozen dead deer along the road and a few live ones (nothing like the herds we saw in Texas between Houston and Dallas a few weeks ago — probably 200 head or more!), but thankfully, we avoided any deer-related accidents, had no further car trouble, and arrived safely in time to say a quick hello to our dog, only to leave her again right away for dinner out with Mom and Dad. We stayed the night and headed home the next day. The remainder of the trip was uneventful (thank God). We arrived home to find two well-fed cats pretending to be attention-starved during our absence, although we know better. The house was left spotless and whaddya know  — when I went to cook dinner the next day, a twenty dollar bill jumped out of the kitchen cupboard!

Many thanks to all who helped make this a memorable trip. 🙂 We are so very grateful that in spite of  numerous inconveniences, nothing REALLY bad happened and everyone is safe!

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I missed some of the speeches last night when Jenna called, but it was good to hear her voice. We enjoyed our visit with them in Lubbock this past week.

I’ve been catching up on what I missed last night, but I did hear Palin. While I don’t agree with some of her core beliefs, her reception and speech were pretty remarkable — she even pronounced “nuclear” correctly this time, but did she say “pundants?” To quote my dear husband, McCain seems to have “pulled this one out of his ass.” Bring on the debates.

On a side note, my blasted cable keeps going on and off this morning and I’m quite annoyed with frequent stretches of no Internet, no TV (specifically MSNBC), and no telephone.

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Happy Birthday, Blake!

Happy birthday and much love to the best daughter-in-law in the world! We enjoyed our short visit with you, but time got away from us. We’ll have to have a belated celebration our next visit. Stay away from Gustav. One hurricane per household is plenty.

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Palin????? It would seem the Republicans have a death wish or something.  Maybe that’s not fair.

That’s the instant message I received from my dad the moment she was confirmed as McCain’s VP choice. She’s an interesting pick, no doubt, but I can’t see her helping their campaign in the way they seem to think. When she spoke, Palin thanked Ferraro and Hillary for paving the way for her. What about Shirley Chisholm running for President in 1972?  I think she missed an opportunity there. Wouldn’t it have been beneficial to them to have mentioned and thanked Chisholm too? Then when she mispronounced “nuclear” just like Bush, I think McCain flinched a bit.

On the other hand, Obama’s speech at the DNC was amazing.

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Empty Nesting

We are back from having moved enough furniture and belongings to fill a 16 ft. truck and two Saturn Ions from our home to Jenna’s and Jen’s new apartment in Lubbock, followed by a couple of days unpacking and getting them settled in. A few days after our return, we saw Ali off at the airport so that she could meet Matthew in California for their three-year dating anniversary. This week is just a short, empty-nesting preview, but the real thing will be coming all too soon.

Although it’s a slow time of the year for selling real estate, we’ve had enough interest in the house to keep us paranoid about leaving daily messes. We thought we had a young family showing interest in the house toward evening yesterday when we spied a couple and three children examining our creek. They left and then returned with others collecting under the trees on our creek-front property for thirty minutes or more. Over the years, we’ve had several mistake it for public property and we eventually concluded that it was probably a church group. We made our presence known by taking the dog out and getting the mail, but they still seemed clueless that they were trespassing. We saw no harm in what they were doing so we didn’t tell them or ask them to leave.

My typical summer morning routine takes about an hour with pets, tidying, and some yard work — and then there’s too little to do the rest of the day. Earlier this week I got another glance at one of our creek owls gliding over my head as I was watering. I awoke this morning and immediately took Phoebe outside, as I normally do. We’ve had some rain lately so instead of grabbing the hose to start watering potted plants, I sat in a lawn chair to enjoy the cooler morning for a few minutes. I looked across the pool and spotted a familiar face cautiously peering back at me. Butterball? What was he doing outside? Happy to see me, he came running as soon as I called and I put him inside, but I soon realized that Sox was also missing. I dressed and began looking for him, first in the house, and then outside. Finally, Steve awoke and began looking too. He’d gone to bed late and they must have escaped when he let Phoebe out one last time before he went to bed. They’re inside cats and don’t usually even try to go outdoors. We had just about given up finding him when suddenly I saw Sox timidly sitting in just about the same place that I’d seen Butterball earlier. I sat on the diving board, wiggled my fingers and coaxed him to me. About that time, I spied a probable victim floating lifelessly in the pool — a good sized rodent the cats had probably chased to its demise. They may have had an adventure, but both were glad to be back inside.

With all that done, this is the time of morning I usually start hearing footsteps bounding down the stairs — but strangely, it’s very, very quiet.

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The girls and I drove back Wednesday from a few fun days in Houston with Joel, Blake, and Zoe, who is a very busy toddler. She’s talking more and more these days, and over the course of our visit, her favorite word, “No,” was occasionally followed by “Nokay” (with a tone implying “Okay, if I have to”).

Although I’m technically challenged and too impatient to figure out their TV and TiVo controls, Zoe seems to have it all figured out. I was quite impressed when with what seemed like a few random pushes and twists, she successfully turned on a TiVo recording of Sesame Street! I also kept a window open on my laptop with Sesame Street videos so when she came to sit by me whenever I was using the computer, she could point to a character and we’d play a song or a learning segment. I left the laptop open once when she was otherwise occupied. While I went to the kitchen for coffee, she managed to activate the window and start a video herself. She’s not even two yet!

We enjoyed the 5-day visit and arrived home on the 29th, Jens arrived the 30th and celebrated his 22nd birthday with us on the 31st, and Jenna and Jens left this morning for the first round of their move to Lubbock. With Jenna’s car packed to the brim with all they could take, we hugged and said goodbye. They’ll be back in a few days and we’ll rent a van and help them get the majority of their things to their new apartment on another trip.

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I woke up this morning to find that once again my computer has blanked out. The problem is exactly as I described previously on the 25th of June. Yes, the same problem that the geniuses at the Apple Genius Bar “fixed” by keeping my laptop for over a week and completely replacing the motherboard (whatever the heck that is). I think my beloved MacBook Pro just runs way too hot, but the odd thing is that both times it was working perfectly fine when I closed it for the night and then woke to the lovely surprise of a blacked-out screen. I wonder what their genius solution will be this time. My husband is graciously tending to my problem and letting me use his HP Pavilion during this crisis.

With everyone dispersed around the house today, taking care of my computer problem, or out somewhere finding their own entertainment, I had little to do except watch a critically ill betta fish take its final breaths and catch up on some worthless TV programming.

I’ve spent nearly all of today watching almost an entire season of The Moment of Truth online. I don’t know which demonstrates more stupidity — the people on the show willing to risk and ruin their family relationships and jobs for the opportunity to earn $10,000-500,000.00, or me wasting a whole Sunday watching them do it. Regardless, between episodes I glanced at the fish bowl across the room to check on the fish. Ahto did finally eat today after days of not appearing to do so, and was still occasionally swimming around, but he remained near the surface and wasn’t himself.

We’ve unwillingly had the fish since the early part of Ali’s senior year, when he was a required purchase for her high school science class project. I never understood why EVERYONE in the class needed to buy a fish they were going to need for less than three weeks, when certainly they could have pooled their money, bought a few for the entire class and shared them. Then, whomever actually WANTED to keep a fish could take them home as a pet, but no — every student had to buy one — and a bowl, and food, and everything else needed to sustain a fish, and then take it home to maintain for the rest of its life.

He was a pretty fish. Actually, he was the second one bought for the same project, since the first died soon after purchase. Ali created a nice little habitat for Ahto and I have to admit that I did enjoy watching him. I didn’t mind feeding him either. I just wanted absolutely nothing to do with cleaning his bowl and changing the water! Still, I fretted about him more than anyone else I think. Did you feed him? Did you change his water? I think he needs a new plant…

Well, finally during my last episode of online TV, I glanced up and Ahto looked pretty lifeless — and he was, the poor thing. Like Ali’s first fish, Ernie, he was buried at sea — only this time there was no procession, no final goodbyes, and Butterball and I were the only onlookers.

*flush*

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My sister-in-law, Merry, is the sweetest, most amazing person and she doesn’t even know it. She’s more than an in-law, she’s in every sense of the word, a sister. I hope you have a wonderful birthday.

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I’m writing this as our oldest daughter recuperates from yesterday’s emergency eye surgery for a detaching retina. She had been experiencing some flashing in her right eye, had seen our regular optometrist last Thursday, and was referred to a specialist, who initially found her retina intact. The flashing was believed at the time to most likely be opthalmic migraine aura, but it worsened over the weekend. On Monday, even though a retinal tear still couldn’t be found, she had developed blurred peripheral vision. Upon a closer look, fluid was detected to indicate the presence of a minute tear and the specialist determined that scleral buckling surgery was needed the following day.

So, yesterday after a family Skype conversation with Zoe, Joel and Blake — the rest of us went to the hospital. After about five hours in hospital waiting rooms, we talked to the doctor who was quite upbeat following her approximately two-hour-long surgery, and then joined Jenna in her recovery room expecting her to be discharged by 11:00 pm. Her vitals were good, she was groggy, but very thirsty and hungry. We gave her a cookie and filled her full of over 40 oz. of juice and water, but after a day of fasting she still wasn’t hydrated enough by midnight to prove she was well enough to leave. When she finally provided a specimen, they put her in a wheelchair that induced motion sickness by the time we got to the elevator. It was then back to the room until the feeling subsided, at which time, she opted to walk instead of ride. By the time we finally arrived home, it was about 1:40 am.

It was a crazy day. For about the first hour and a half while Jenna was waiting to be checked in and was still with us, we had some strange experiences with random people approaching us to comment about how unusual (in a good way) and refreshing it was to see how we acted together and how apparently close we were as a family.

Within thirty minutes of our arrival, a woman approached and directed her first interruption to Ali…

“Excuse me. I know this seems odd, but how old are you?”

“Eighteen.”

Looking at Jenna, she asked the same question.

“Twenty.”

“You see, I’m asking because my daughter is nineteen and here today having surgery. I’ve noticed how supportive and close you all are… ” She rambled for a while about how it was also nice that Jenna allowed me to snuggle close with her and finally said she just wanted to tell us to never lose that. “You’re so lucky. Hold onto it. My daughter didn’t want me with her. She wanted to do it all alone and I’m rather sad today.”

We thanked her, wished her daughter a speedy recovery, etc., but didn’t really know what else to say. I suppose what she really needed was a hug, but I remained hugging Jenna instead. She returned several times to ask how to use her daughter’s cell phone and made further comments. Meanwhile, a woman wheeled in her mumbling, elderly husband who had just been released and was apparently still somewhat under the influence of anesthesia. She parked his wheelchair facing away from her and positioned him about a foot directly in front of Ali, to whom he continued to speak incoherently.

We were called to the check-in desk to fill out paperwork and so instead of returning to our previous seats, we found a new corner of the waiting room. There sat a woman, probably in her early thirties, who just beamed at Jenna as we approached, and with childlike enthusiasm exclaimed, “I know you! I’ve seen you here before!”

We all smiled in return and Jenna politely told her it was her first visit there and that she probably had her confused her with someone else. She too went on to comment about how great it was we were there together as a family… we looked like such a nice family, etc. Shortly after that, they took Jenna back to change into a surgical gown and to start prepping her.

We were left in the waiting room with the sweetly smiling woman whom we soon recognized as delusional — but harmless — when she again brightened with a childlike grin and said, “I’m an inventor. I’m waiting on the government to pay me a million dollars for a new solar energy invention. I have lots of inventions. Have you heard of steam engine trains? You know they used to help provide rain and as soon as they stopped using them, we had a drought. I have an alternative for fuel that will also help prevent all this flooding. One government agency I contacted said they weren’t interested because it was too cost prohibitive, so I’m going to contact the President about it,” then chuckling added, “but I have to hurry before he goes out of office!” We listened politely, nodded confirmation (“Oh, really? Good luck, keep at it,” etc.) and acknowledged her stories until she finally said that she had to catch a bus.

The whole conversation was probably no more than fifteen minutes, but during that time she said she was at the hospital a lot, really liked it there (it was so clean and friendly), and that she’d just moved back after staying with her mother in Balch Springs while the wiring in her own apartment was being fixed. We asked where Balch Springs was and she told us how to get there. She talked about missing her church while she was gone and asked if we knew where it was. She was obviously somewhat knowledgeable about some current issues even though her invention claims seemed a bit bizarre — and yet she clearly sought positive attention and approval with the innocence of a child. We wished her luck with her inventions as she departed.

The three of us exchanged glances, then noted how weird it seemed that no one else was being approached by anyone there like we were. It was just so odd. We were all a bit puzzled as to why it was so unusual to others for a family to be there in support of one another because it’s very usual for us. Ali said, “Don’t other families do this?” Jenna had even commented earlier that when asked who would be waiting for her during surgery, she had replied, “My parents,” to which they asked, “which one?”

“My Parents. Both of them… and maybe my sister.”

“ALL of them?”

“Yes.”

After they prepped Jenna for surgery and finally let us in to see her, she was back there cracking jokes with staff and laughing as she pointed out to us the word “yes” that had been written in marker above her right eye. I had been expecting her to be freaking out in some panic attack by that point… they hadn’t even given her the drugs yet! 😛 I was so proud of her. It was a scary situation, but she handled it incredibly well. I think we all did. After some initial pain this morning, she’s been handling it well and in fairly good humor today, too.

The random approaches and comments from strangers, the unexpected moments of humor during stress, the way the anesthesiologist had even twice commented about how she felt a special connection to Jenna, the demeanor of the doctor and the staff, a few frustrations… all of it… just left me feeling like we’d all been cast in an episode of Scrubs.

Oh, and also worth noting, I’m posting this from my husband’s computer. Although my computer was still working properly following yesterday’s Skype conversation, when I opened it to email Jens about Jenna’s condition at about 2 am, it seemed to have hibernated with no way to stop it other than rebooting. Familiar sounds indicated it was rebooting successfully, but the screen remained completely black.

Crap.

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